The art of saying "No" - How did you learn it?

I struggled for a long time until I joined Mckinsey, and they taught me a framework mostly to deal with demanding situations. Might look like I plug but just sharing as its fitting. I wrote extensively about it here: https://twitter.com/supermode_/s...

You have to learn where "always YES" is coming from. Tackle that and be happy forever, saying "no" with a smile. :)

Still learning it :)

By being taken advantage of to the point where it really bothered me, and over the years, I started to say no. Its the same scenario on why would a dog sit on a nail, why won't it stand up> It squeecks and cries... Well, because it isn't hurting enough, yet. And funny thing is, when I started doing that, I actually got more money. I lived at a place which I rented and lived with the owner and I was a guy that would go to the shop many times for free etc... then I started to say no and they paid me now to go. One of many stories. The mindset applies in other aspects of life. Eventually you get enough of bs and you start to change, as long as you want to - as some people want to stay under the radar the whole time, but you don't grow that way.

Have not learnt it. Love seeing the comments, they're helping me out.

Later on after college when I realized that I was always taken advantage of

Great point to discuss but still looking for better ways to say no.

I started doing it more when I started feeling what is going on inside me when I make a decision or communicate one. And now the voice is so loud that I can't ignore it.

Initially, I said yes to all feature requests. At some point, it became very clear that the product will become bloated quickly if we keep doing that and now we only approve those features that many customers requested and that fit our product vision. For all other requests, it is a polite "no".

once you just start it becomes empowering and therefore it becomes compelling and easy