How do you manage to focus on your work when so many things are falling apart?
It's a rule that when one aspect of life is going well, the others are somehow failing.
At the moment, things couldn't be better on the work front:
I have a great team, and the company is doing well.
I'm praised for the results I deliver and the progress I'm making.
My networks are growing, and there's more and more interest in my sponsorships.
More people want to work together.
And I'm co-organising 2 offline events.
But suddenly, for some reason, other things start to go wrong, e.g. a family member ends up in the hospital, there are also a lot of negative things in the news affecting my country and indirectly me and my focus, etc.
Suddenly, it's impossible to fully concentrate all that energy on your work when the negativity from your personal life spills over into your work life.
How do you cope with personal negatives that affect your work life and work efficiency?
Basics that have helped me so far, but still trying to find more:
• Join a running club (I usually exercise alone on my own, but now I need people)
• Attend offline events
• Have a family (also through taking turns with a sick member in the hospital)
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DeepTagger
Sending you lots of love, Nika 🤍 🤗 For me, it’s swimming and tennis 🏊🎾, both force me to be fully present. During the activity, I can’t check my phone or overthink, so my brain gets that reset. Afterwards, focus at work comes back a lot easier.
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@talshyn Thank you, swimming would be cool at the moment. Unfortunately, they haven't opened the swimming pool yet in my town. 🙈
DeepTagger
@busmark_w_nika ah, that’s tough! 🙈 Maybe then something like dance, climbing, or even a fast walk outside, anything that gets your brain to unplug for a bit ✨🥰
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@talshyn Fastwalking is my fave :)
IXORD
This can happen to anyone and everyone has their own approach. And some method is hard to implement for others, there are those who start working more so as not to think about something or, on the contrary, calm down when their relatives are nearby. I hope that such cases will be less common in people's lives (
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@ixord These cases happened right now to me, so the feelings are mixed. I have to say that I am doing better than I expected.
MultiDrive
I hope everything will be okay with your family member.
These times are so challenging, with so many difficulties. I’m from Ukraine, and my parents, friends, and colleagues often have sleepless nights because of the danger.
What really helps is when people support each other: talking, spending time together, doing things side by side.
At work, teamwork is especially helpful, as it takes your mind off the stress and helps you stay focused on your tasks.
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@tetiana_hryshmanovska I am so sorry to hear that :( Also heard that Poland is going to have struggles with that too. I am from Slovakia and totally embarrassed by how our prime minister represents our country :/
You're right! When our brain gets crowded with so many things happening around us, so many distractions then it becomes very difficult to stay consistent and focused for a long time. It's like trying to place discipline into our brain but if the brain is already crowded, we can’t make it stick or stay for long because other thoughts keep pulling our attention away.
So, we need to let in only as much as our brain can handle. It’s challenging, but organizing tasks one by one makes it easier to get everything done efficiently without losing focus on the main work.
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@moeez_ur_rehman1 I should create some basic schedule to not be distracted 😬
@busmark_w_nika Yeah! you're right again.
It’s a layer cake. I believe one layer to aim for is faith and gratitude. How blessed are we to be conscious at all. How lucky are we to be tempered by this beautiful, murderous... crucible of a place. Even if we face it alone, we face it alone together.
A fun thought exercise is to define paradise. What does that look like to most of us? We might say, less time on our phones, more around friends and family. Pets are great. Eat more simply. Couches are comfortable, keep those for sure. And the more we list it off, the more we realize how close it already is. Wandering into paradise might not help but it definitely doesn't make things worse.
For me gym and meditation are non-negotiable, even when running a startup. They help me to switch my mind off when it usually runs 100km/h all of the time.
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@ewa_betkier Love the parallel. It is so hitting :)
HakkoAI
@busmark_w_nika This resonates deeply. I've learned that trying to maintain "normal" productivity during crisis actually makes everything worse.
Here's what's helped me through similar periods:
The 3-Priority Rule: When life gets chaotic, I identify just 3 work priorities for the week. Everything else gets postponed or delegated. This prevents the overwhelm of trying to do everything at 50%.
Energy-based scheduling: I track when I naturally have more mental clarity (usually mornings for me) and protect those hours fiercely for the most important work. The rest of the day is for easier tasks or admin.
The "good enough" mindset: I temporarily lower my perfectionist standards. A 80% solution delivered is better than a 100% solution that never gets finished because I'm mentally scattered.
Micro-wins: I celebrate small accomplishments more intentionally. Finished one important email? Win. Had a productive 30-minute call? Win. These tiny dopamine hits help maintain momentum.
The key insight: Your capacity is temporarily reduced, and that's okay. Adjust your expectations accordingly rather than fighting it.
Sending strength your way. These phases pass, and often we emerge more resilient. 💪
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@oratis Thank you, I think that the 3rd point is something I need to apply at this moment, otherwise I would go crazy.
There are 2 perspectives which i have seen work well. One - my friend follows and second - I follow.
1) My Friend's policy:
You have a problem? Can you solve it? Then why worry.
You have a problem? You cannot solve it (no matter what). Then why worry.
2) My Policy:
It hinges on faith and optimism.
If something has taken a wrong/bad turn despite all genuine efforts then continue to steer with greater rigour as there is probably something even better about to happen. Also, such hardships just add to the value of what you are set to achieve.
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@manu_goel2 Your friend has a quite pleghmatic approach. 😅 I think that problems should be solved, but the approach we have (or response) is crucial as well.
I put on my music like to have walk for sometime and i think what i can control and what i cant set the solution accordinglgyI turn on my music and take a walk, allowing myself some time to reflect. I focus on what I can control and recognize what I can’t, which helps me identify solutions that truly work.
This really resonates, Nika. Life rarely gives us “clean chapters” — the highs and lows bleed into each other, and it’s exhausting to keep the work bubble intact.
Something that’s helped me: instead of fighting the spillover, I acknowledge it. I’ll literally tell my team, “Hey, I’m at 70% this week, here’s what I can deliver.” It takes the pressure off pretending I’m at 100% and creates room for others to step in.
Also, I’ve learned to keep one or two “anchoring rituals” that don’t change, no matter the chaos (for me it’s a morning walk and journaling). Even on the worst days, those habits remind me I’m not completely at the mercy of circumstances.
Really appreciate you opening this up — I think more of us struggle with this than we admit.