Swiping feels like a full-time job

At some point, I realised my life stopped fitting into how dating apps work.

My day isn’t predictable. Some days go 14 hours deep into work. Some days I disappear into ideas. Sometimes I cancel plans because something important just clicked.

And every time, it felt like I was the problem.

People want consistency. I get that.
But building something meaningful doesn’t come with a fixed schedule.

So I kept wondering —
are there more people like this trying to date… and just quietly struggling?