How do you build a family safety app that helps parents without making teens feel watched?

I’m working on Findmykids, a family safety app, and this is the product question we keep coming back to:

parents want peace of mind, but teens want independence.

A lot of family / parental tools get this wrong in one of two ways:

• they feel too passive and don’t help when something actually matters

• or they feel too invasive and damage trust

I’m curious how people here think about that balance.

If you were designing a product in this space, what would make it feel:

1. helpful instead of invasive?

2. clear instead of creepy?

3. trustworthy for both the parent and the teen?

I’d especially love examples of UX patterns, wording, or products that handle this well.

Blunt takes welcome.