Remember: You are the one holding the key to your decisions, not AI.
Since the AI era started booming, everything has been changing incredibly fast and it requires us to adapt just as quickly. AI is now part of both our work and daily lives. It slowly seeps into everything, and over time, it can even reduce how much we think and decide for ourselves.
Of course, I won’t deny the huge benefits AI brings.
But the more I saw how easily we can get carried away by it, the more I felt the need to slow down to step back and look at the bigger picture.
After spending time working with AI, I realized a few important things:
AI is just a tool to support us. We are the ones who create ideas, make plans, and make decisions.
We need to know what we want and what we need before using AI, so we don’t get easily led or influenced by it.
Don’t let AI interfere with every small decision in your day.
Never treat AI as absolute truth. Keep upgrading your own thinking and knowledge to question and verify it.
Don’t rush, and don’t fear AI either. We are human, not machines meant to compete in speed with AI.
Outside of work, I also try not to let AI take over my personal life. I still enjoy learning a new craft, reading physical books, writing vocabulary in a notebook… small things like that. But they train my patience and discipline, and help me keep my thinking structured and intentional.
At the end of the day, we still matter - especially when it comes to important decisions in our lives.
What’s your perspective on this?
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Strong reminder. AI should amplify judgment, not replace it.
I’ve found the biggest risk isn’t bad answers, but slowly outsourcing thinking itself. The moment you stop asking “does this make sense to me?” is when AI starts leading instead of supporting.
Tools evolve fast — decision ownership shouldn’t.
I built my entire app (SelfOS) using AI tools without any coding background — but the key was exactly what you said: knowing what I wanted BEFORE asking AI. AI wrote the code, but I decided:
- What features matter to users
- How the UX should feel
- When to say "no, that's not right"
The moment you let AI lead without a clear vision, you end up with a generic product that solves nothing specific. AI accelerates execution. Humans own the direction.
Murror
@virtualviki If we let AI make too many decisions for us, then at some point, the product is no longer truly ours.
Sometimes, we need to make decisions that may be emotional or imperfect but they are still our decisions. And at the very least, we get to learn from the choices we make ourselves.
@monatruong_murror "The product is no longer truly ours" — this is such a good way to put it.
And the learning part is key. When I make a wrong product decision, I understand WHY it was wrong. When AI makes it, I just see it didn't work — no real lesson learned.
Mistakes are part of the process, not bugs to eliminate.
Murror
@virtualviki When AI give wrong decisions, we also cannot blame for it. Because we are the person empowered AI to make decisions. The problem is not our wrong decisions, that's because we allowed AI to lead us.
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I do question AI all the time; outputs are often very convincing, but also sycophantic. It's hard to get an unbiased opinion from AI regarding something that I'm doing.
I love the physical grounding of what you do in your life -- that's amazing!
Do you do anything to "digital detox", or do you have established habits to make sure you stick with those activities? I'm finding exercise and consistency difficult ever since I became a founder -- there's always more work to do and some healthy habits have unfortunately gone out the window.
Personally I'd love to try mediation more - definitely helps me recenter myself and not get carried away.
Murror
@dougli Yeh I know when you be a founder, you maybe give up some of your healthy habits. But I want you ask yourself that "What's the most important thing in your life?", that's you have health and you can working right? But if you can't assure your health, how can you work or spend time with your families?
Thank your question, Douglas. I think I can answer you that I have the boundaries for my work and set my habit as a requirement. I set the rules and I need to follow it without compromising on laziness, motivation, or my erratic emotion except unavoidable situations. And I start to learn a new skill to increase my concentration as knitting. I think you can do it, you just need a reason for do everything you concerning. Simple and step by step, don't force yourself.