The Obstacle Is the Way - A method for excellence in any and all situations

@ryanholiday definitely subscribe to this. i have for years and have found lots of great reads from it.

@eriktorenberg @ryanholiday same, make sure to check it out.

@harrystebbings holy shit, Harry, you're only 18? What will you being doing at 22, then? Taking over the world? :P

@harrystebbings The hardest part is not other people, it's you. There's a reason that young people are typically made to wait and not put into major positions of responsibility. We don't know enough yet, we haven't been fully tested, it can go to our heads, we might be sensitive or not in control of our emotions, etc etc The reality is that these stereotypes are not totally untrue. We do have those weaknesses. The hardest part about being trusted earlier than other people is that battle against the sense. It's proving that you really were worth it and that you are different. It means putting up with bullshit. It means not doing the things you'd maybe like to do or naturally would do. It's that whole "be twice as good" thing. Not everyone is capable of it, but that's what it takes.

@eliotpeper You know the word Epicurean? How we think it means a glutton for pleasure. A quick definition from Wikipedia is actually "Epicurus believed that what he called "pleasure" is the greatest good, but the way to attain such pleasure is to live modestly and to gain knowledge of the workings of the world and the limits of one's desires." Stoicism is misunderstood to an equal degree. It's supposedly a philosophy of fatalistic resignation and an appetite for pain. In reality, it is a formula for resilience and optimism and strength. It's a set of ethics that guide you towards the good life in a world that is unpredictable and often unforgiving. That's all. In terms of why books are important...I hate this question. It seems silly how often people ask me to make a positive use case for books, as though in all of human history there was some other thing more responsible for success, brilliance, creativity, progress, wisdom and relief.

@esbvn I wish I could upload a picture but the view behind my computer monitor is a farm with a lake and I can watch my pet goats prance around. For lunch, I cooked myself a steak and read on the porch. When this AMA is over, I am going to go fishing with a friend that's come over. I might do some target shooting too. I feel very fortunate to have a little slice of the American Dream here in Texas.

@ryanholiday awesome!

@kikischirr I don't want to say I don't care about piracy but my theory is, if you make good stuff people will eventually buy it. So don't worry about it. In any case, TOITW was much less of a 'departure' than people thing. The first book offer I ever got was for a book about stoic philosophy but I passed on it because I wasn't ready (to be honest, I thought I was but Robert Greene astutely advised otherwise). I actually sold Obstacle immediately after TMIL came out. But then the idea for Growth Hacker came up and the book was released first. Really though the book was inspired by the fact that stoicism changed my life since I'd been introduced to it at 19 and I really really wanted to share it with people. Robert Greene is right when he identifies stories as being the best way to communicate an idea to people.

@ryanholiday That's really interesting! Thanks for clarifying the timeline. I'm glad you and Robert Greene are still in touch--will there ever be another collaboration? One where both your names are on the cover?

@kikischirr I would be obviously very honored and flattered if that ever happened. It'd be fun to talk about American Apparel some day. Really though, I'm plenty happy helping him however I can. I would be his research assistant again in two seconds if I had the time and if he would have me. Though my wife would probably kill me. It was just such an amazing opportunity to be directed to read these things and to be accountable to such a incisive, brilliant person. Half the things I'm proud of in TOITW are basically leftover scraps from research I did for assignments he gave me.

@waytao Oh this one is easy. "Write more" is terrible advice. DO MORE is much better. As in, go live and do interesting things. Whatever you end up writing, it will be better for it. That's partially why I turned down the first book offer I got (see story in another comment). I talked about this a little in Neil Strauss' AMA last week. But one of my new favorite novels is James Salter's The Hunters. Why was he able to write it? Because he was a fighter pilot before he became a writer. How cool is that? Be a fighter pilot, then write books. Don't get an MFA.

@allnacho This passage from Marcus Aurelius is pretty damn good. "“When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: the people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous and surly. They are like this because they can't tell good from evil. But I have seen the beauty of good, and the ugliness of evil, and have recognized that the wrongdoer has a nature related to my own - not of the same blood and birth, but the same mind, and possessing a share of the divine. And so none of them can hurt me. No one can implicate me in ugliness. Nor can I feel angry at my relative, or hate him. We were born to work together like feet, hands and eyes, like the two rows of teeth, upper and lower. To obstruct each other is unnatural. To feel anger at someone, to turn your back on him: these are unnatural.” In terms of AA, for me it was all about connections. Robert Greene was on the board. He got me an entry level position with the CEO and then I helped create my own job there.

@mscccc Exercise. It's one of the most important and meditative things anyone can do.

@eriktorenberg I think the honest answer is probably Gawker. It's just a shame they use their powers mostly for bad. I'm also impressed with Netflix and YouTube. I think they're the next two powerhouse companies.